I saw this poignant quote today and felt that it captured an integral essence of personal development. I’ve gained a lot of wisdom over the last ten months by simply practicing the following principle that I believe is necessary in order to expand our lives: “the only way to get what we want from life is to stop waiting for a reason, a milestone or an outcome to occur in order to be happy”. By the way, this is called authenticity. Right now as you are, without a single thing changing or happening in your life, this is the version of yourself that you need to love and accept in order to reclaim your greatness. Whatever would give you joy within this context of your being (when you’re not pretending to be the expectations that you believe would make you more worthy) is the gift of your passion. Anything and everything else will always become a tiresome chore that will not give your soul the joy and abundance that your it desires and is capable of.
Consider that the person you are now doesn’t have anything to prove or lose so it’d be some kind of magic if you would put a little fuel of love into her and give her some direction. Allowing yourself to be good enough right now shows the universe that you deserve what you desire and finally gives the version of you that is sustainable the permission to start creating. As you are right now is all that is certain, and if you infused enough joy into your momentum, you would finally have nothing to lose because you are already happy simply being you. Therefore, whatever false imaginings, gripes or regrets that you must let go of to feel joy again in this moment of your life is actually the lesson that your life has been trying to teach you. And all experiences in your life will continue to nudge you to release whatever expectation(s) prevents you from loving yourself, so might as well take the lesson now before it becomes more forceful.
Unhappiness is simply your soul’s rebellion against denying yourself of love. It’s been waiting with gifts and wisdom to guide you into greater abundance but soon it will grow more impatient if it feels that time is running out. Like a stubborn child with its arms crossed and backed turned to your charade, it will stay unhappy unless you love yourself. You may say “but I got a new motorcycle, aren’t you happy now?” and it will not budge with an ounce of joy. “But I lost so much weight, aren’t you happy now?” And it will be stonewalled. Your soul will withhold all joy for any performance of inauthenticity.
You will have no choice but to finally embrace your truth and honour yourself wholly as you will surely tire of internally suffering in vain. This is how ordinary people create extraordinary lives by choosing joy just as they are and letting their soul guide them into their natural magnificence.